Sometimes it’s easy to think that the emotional impact of eye loss is mostly to do with the person who has lost their eye.
In the case of children, it’s the parents who have to deal with the big adjustments and emotions.
I think there can also be an assumption that if an adult loses an eye as a child then it’s no longer an issue for that person or their family.
I had an interesting experience this week that reminded me that the impact of eye loss stretches across generations and decades.
I’ve been up in Darwin running a clinic and I showed our book A Different Perspective to a client who lost his eye as a child.
To be honest with you I wasn’t expecting much interest because the actual trauma of the eye loss happened so long ago.
Originally we crafted the book thinking about people who were right in the middle of the whole eye loss experience.
Our plan was for surgeons to leave it with people after they’d been told their eye couldn’t be saved.
Here was someone who’d lived with an artificial eye most of their life. I wondered how relevant this book would be.
My client attended the clinic with his wife and she was very interested in the book. She said their daughter would really benefit from reading it.
Then my client told me his son would REALLY benefit from reading it.
I’m still surprised at times like this. In retrospect it’s obvious really. Family are such a very big part of the eye loss journey and they need information too.
The next day my client came back to buy another copy for his Mum. ‘She never got over it and she sure will shed some tears when she reads this’.
My client also told me that he and his wife have got a whole lot out of our book.
I didn’t imagine that our little book would resonate for all sorts of people of different ages with such different experiences and connections with eye loss.
From this and other feedback it’s clear that no matter where you’re up to in adjusting to eye loss it’s helpful to read about other people’s experience.
Many people don’t know any other person who has lost an eye. They don’t get to meet other families who have supported a family member through this difficult experience. This book is a conversation with real people about their journey.
Paul and I are thrilled that the book has turned out to be even more useful than we’d hoped.
If you haven’t checked it out already, here’s a link to A Different Perspective.